tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1186813353317681141.post7540412159419676150..comments2023-10-17T05:46:15.958-07:00Comments on The Shyness Institute: New York Times article: Shyness: Evolutionary Tactic?Lynne Henderson, PhDhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12177338590635210377noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1186813353317681141.post-85232783253749084882011-09-11T10:43:48.440-07:002011-09-11T10:43:48.440-07:00Yours is a great point, Sylvie. I agree that using...Yours is a great point, Sylvie. I agree that using compassion constructively to understand and appreciate differences, and to learn from each other in the process, is the way through the stereotyping that can separate us. Research on mindfulness and compassion is also showing us that everyone has negative automatic thoughts, everyone struggles with their own challenges, and at the same time everyone can contribute and can love. I developed the social fitness model because, like physical fitness it is a lifelong process of working out and learning what works for us and works with others to live well together.Lynne Henderson, PhDhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12177338590635210377noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1186813353317681141.post-66194108930963094312011-09-11T06:42:49.927-07:002011-09-11T06:42:49.927-07:00I think it is striking that it is much easier to f...I think it is striking that it is much easier to find resources that help to reshape one's own, presumed "oddness" than those that advise the presumably "normal" to understand and adapt to others. I was trying to find some ideas to suggest to my child, a freshman in college, with a very, very shy roommate. Because my child has a complex and rocky history with anxiety that has manifested itself quite differently, I have been able to offer cautions to be compassionate on that basis alone. But I would love to be able to suggest more. Most of what there is out there is, however, suggestions to conform, and not to use compassion constructively to build diverse social relationships.Sylviehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08891324685804732666noreply@blogger.com